MARRIAGE IS A PROMISE NOT JUST BETWEEN THE COUPLE BUT TO THE COMMUNITY AT LARGE, TO GENERATIONS PAST AND TO THOSE YET TO BE BORN... BY Ebony Whiteberry

Today I want to talk about something that could be nothing, and in its capacity, has destroyed millions of young marriages... Personally I had to fight it with the whole of my strength... Like I said it's something but nothing... It is called SUSPICION!
I've come to realize that most suspicious spouses have 2 problems, it's either they don't trust themselves well enough to trust another or they have been betrayed by a loved one in the past, or even the present one they are still with. Suspicions takes away the joys of a relationship over 60% of the time, it makes you totally
uncomfortable with your spouse, it creates worry in your heart, gives you sleepless nights, keeps your brain calculating and you eventually end up doing more research than an FBI. It steals your peace and your sanity, and you begin to read meaning to every little thing, what you may not know is that, you are cutting your life short, I'll go deeper a bit into it, and I hope God helps us to make the right choices for our relationships and our lives even more.
"Pure love and suspicion cannot dwell together: at the door where the latter enters, the former makes its exit.”
Did a fleeting shred of doubt cross your mind when you called your spouse and didn’t get an answer? Do you get edgy and suspicious when your partner's mobile is switched off?
A love relationship stands on a foundation of love, understanding and trust. Being suspicious of your partner can destroy loving, beautiful relationships. Suspicion, born out of insecurities and lack of trust can prove fatal for any love relationship or marriage.
"I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.”
Stop being sneaky:-
Frequently calling your partner, just to keep a tab or what he or she is doing or where he is going can drive anyone up the wall. Or searching your partner's shirt pockets, sniffing their clothes for any unfamiliar perfume or going through your spouse' phone book or mails and other such sneaky habits can lead to strife in a marriage relationship.
When the suspicion bug bites, you can even end up reading too much into how someone shakes hands, hugs or exchange greetings with your partner in public functions and jumping to conclusions.
What do you think all this leads to? Just think for a while, does being suspicious solve any problem? Suspicion is a malaise that can kill any relationship. It can make a partner who is sincere and loyal find it difficult to tolerate an unhealthy atmosphere of suspicion.
You may end your relationship based purely on your self-imagined suspicions but keep in mind once you are gripped by a disease called suspicion, it will affect your future relationships as well.
Relationship help: Talk with your partner
If you have doubts on your partner better is to confront him/her. The best advice for relationship for a healthy married life is to talk to your partner and have an honest discussion.
Share your doubts without blaming or pointing fingers at your spouse. Whether you have doubts about your partner having an extra-marital affair, or doing drugs or flirting with his/her colleagues; the best remedy is to talk.
Wisdom for love: Sit with your partner and tell him/her your feelings. This will make your partner feel loved if you confide in him and clear out any doubts and misunderstandings as well.
"Suspicion is most often useless pain." Why you should go through this mental trauma when it is in your hands to create a beautiful relationship?"
May God help us!