15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make
your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many
things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering - and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing
ourselves to be stress free and happy - we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us,
and we will embrace change. Ready?
Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who can't stand the idea of being wrong -
wanting to always be right - even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and
for others. It's just not worth it. Whenever you feel the 'urgent'
need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask
yourself this question: "Would I rather be right, or would I rather
be kind?" Wayne Dyer. What difference will that
make? Is your ego really
that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that
happens to you and around you - situations, events,
people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just
strangers you meet on
the street - just allow them to be. Allow
everything and everyone to
be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make
you feel.
"By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let
it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning." Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don't
have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving your powersaway and
start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their
negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating Mindset? Don't
believe everything that your mind is telling you - especially if
it's negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
"The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly,
however, it becomes very destructive." Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
about what you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible.
From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs
to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
"A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds
the mind" Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many,
maaany things - people, situations, events that make you
unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no
situation can make you sad
or miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the situation that
triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.
Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are
different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same.
We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be
loved and we all want
to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by
us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you're not just to make
others like you. It doesn't work this way. The moment you stop trying
so hard to be something that you're not, the moment you take off all
your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will
find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will
help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those
around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change - don't resist it.
"Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where
there were only walls" Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don't
understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind,
little by little. Minds only work when open. "The highest form of
ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything
about." Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist - you
created it. It's all
in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
"The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself." Franklin D.Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses
Send them packing and tell them they're fired. You no longer need
them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses
we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our
lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses -
excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past
I know, I know. It's hard. Especially when the past looks so much
better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you
have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is
all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now
longing for - the past that you are now dreaming about - was ignored by you
when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in
everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a
destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be
present in the now.
14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I
have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it's not
something impossible. You get better and better at with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that
doesn't mean you give up your love for them - because love and
attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from
a place of fear, while love... well, real love is pure, kind, and
selfless, where there is love there can't be fear, and
because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become
so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a
place where you will be able to understand all things without even
trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people's expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.
They live their lives according to what others think is best for them,
they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for
them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their
inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that they
lose control over their lives.
They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they
need.... and eventually they forget about themselves. You
have one life - this one
right now - you must live it, own it, and especially don't let
other people's opinions distract you from your path.
Your friend,
Tom
your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many
things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering - and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing
ourselves to be stress free and happy - we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us,
and we will embrace change. Ready?
Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who can't stand the idea of being wrong -
wanting to always be right - even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and
for others. It's just not worth it. Whenever you feel the 'urgent'
need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask
yourself this question: "Would I rather be right, or would I rather
be kind?" Wayne Dyer. What difference will that
make? Is your ego really
that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that
happens to you and around you - situations, events,
people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just
strangers you meet on
the street - just allow them to be. Allow
everything and everyone to
be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make
you feel.
"By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let
it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning." Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don't
have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving your powersaway and
start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their
negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating Mindset? Don't
believe everything that your mind is telling you - especially if
it's negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
"The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly,
however, it becomes very destructive." Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
about what you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible.
From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs
to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
"A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds
the mind" Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many,
maaany things - people, situations, events that make you
unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no
situation can make you sad
or miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the situation that
triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.
Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are
different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same.
We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be
loved and we all want
to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by
us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you're not just to make
others like you. It doesn't work this way. The moment you stop trying
so hard to be something that you're not, the moment you take off all
your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will
find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will
help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those
around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change - don't resist it.
"Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where
there were only walls" Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don't
understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind,
little by little. Minds only work when open. "The highest form of
ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything
about." Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist - you
created it. It's all
in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
"The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself." Franklin D.Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses
Send them packing and tell them they're fired. You no longer need
them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses
we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our
lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses -
excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past
I know, I know. It's hard. Especially when the past looks so much
better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you
have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is
all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now
longing for - the past that you are now dreaming about - was ignored by you
when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in
everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a
destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be
present in the now.
14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I
have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it's not
something impossible. You get better and better at with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that
doesn't mean you give up your love for them - because love and
attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from
a place of fear, while love... well, real love is pure, kind, and
selfless, where there is love there can't be fear, and
because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become
so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a
place where you will be able to understand all things without even
trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people's expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.
They live their lives according to what others think is best for them,
they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for
them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their
inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that they
lose control over their lives.
They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they
need.... and eventually they forget about themselves. You
have one life - this one
right now - you must live it, own it, and especially don't let
other people's opinions distract you from your path.
Your friend,
Tom
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